Couples/Polycules Therapy
Relationships can be a place of deep connection, but they can also bring up painful patterns that feel difficult to shift. I offer couples therapy in Oakland for partners who feel stuck in recurring conflict, emotional distance, or cycles of misunderstanding. Together we slow down the patterns that keep showing up in your relationship and explore the deeper emotions and needs underneath them.
My approach to couples counseling is relational, trauma-informed, and LGBTQ+ affirming. I work with couples across Oakland, Berkeley, and the Bay Area who want to better understand one another, improve communication, and rebuild trust. Rather than focusing on blame, our work centers on curiosity, emotional safety, and helping both partners feel seen and heard.
Many couples come to therapy feeling exhausted by arguments that never seem to resolve or by a growing sense of disconnection. Couples therapy can help you understand the underlying attachment patterns shaping those moments and create new ways of responding to one another. Through this process, partners often begin to experience greater empathy, closeness, and emotional security.
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I work with couples/polycules who are thoughtful, driven, and committed — yet find themselves circling patterns that create distance or conflict rather than connection.
Many of the couples I work with include:
communication challenges and recurring conflict
emotional disconnection or distance
rebuilding trust after a rupture
navigating life transitions together
cultural or identity differences within relationships
understanding attachment patterns that shape conflict
Couples therapy offers a space where both partners can feel supported while learning new ways to communicate and reconnect.
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I also work with LGBTQ+ couples seeking affirming relationship therapy. Many partners navigate additional layers of identity, family expectations, and social stress that can impact relationships. Therapy can provide a space where those experiences are understood and held with care.
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In couples therapy, we move at a pace that allows both partners to feel emotionally safe and understood. Together we explore the dynamics that shape your relationship and practice new ways of communicating that support deeper connection and understanding.
